STOP! Promote children’s self-determination

Children are our future. For parents, protecting their children is the top priority. Therefore, it is important to teach them respect and self-determination - especially when it comes to their own bodies. Children have rights and must learn to set boundaries.

Why is self-determination important for children?

Unfortunately, physical autonomy in children is not something we can take for granted. Especially when they are very young, they are often at the mercy of adults and it is therefore essential to show them that they can say "no". By encouraging our children's self-confidence, we are also protecting them from unwanted closeness, attacks and violence. For example, speaking to children or being touched by strangers are situations that we must prepare our children for. Children who know how to behave in these situations have a clear advantage.

How do I teach my child to assert himself?

Do you want to show him how to make his own decisions and assert himself when it matters? We have put together a few tips for you here:

1. Self-determination through communication and openness

Parents and caregivers are best advised to speak openly and honestly with children about their bodies and feelings from the very beginning. It is important to use the correct terms and not to be afraid of taboo subjects. This way, children can learn that it is normal to talk about such topics. They feel safe when they have questions or want to express their feelings. Explain to them that they can decide for themselves who can touch them and who cannot.

2. Get family and caregivers on board

It is particularly important that children can decide for themselves who they kiss and who they don't. But we all know the situation: the aunt is visiting and really wants a kiss from her beloved nephew. But he refuses. What now?

In such situations, it is important to grant the child this limit. Take your child's decision seriously and support them in enforcing it. If they notice that they are taken seriously and respected, you will promote self-confidence. Talk to friends and relatives about this topic and ask them to accept your child's wishes.

3. How to deal with unpleasant situations

Prepare your child for possible attacks. Explain to them that there may be people who do not respect their boundaries. Talk to them about how they can behave in such situations, for example by saying "no" loudly, breaking free or seeking help. Also explain to them that it is important to talk about such experiences with people they trust.

4. Strengthen your children’s self-confidence

A strong sense of self-confidence is an important prerequisite for children to be able to set their own boundaries and defend themselves if these are not respected. You can encourage this by giving your child responsibility every day, asking for their opinion and regularly letting them have a say.

5. Be a role model and set your own boundaries

Children observe how their parents behave in everyday situations. Therefore, it is best to always show empathy and respect when dealing with other people. Hold the door open for strangers, be friendly and helpful. This way, your child automatically learns that you should pay attention to the needs and boundaries of others.

By setting your own boundaries and communicating them clearly, your child will realize that adults also have the right to say "no" if they don't want something. Here, too, you become a role model yourself.

Conclusion

Treating your own body and the bodies of others with respect is an important basis for a healthy self-image and harmonious coexistence. So be consistent and talk to your child regularly about these topics. By encouraging our children's self-determination, we are actively helping to prepare them for various challenges.

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